Dating and/or being with someone is highly overrated. I think that in our social environments, we are kind of “programed” to view being with someone as a sign of completion. It reminds me of the “Sex and Death” instinct theory that I learned a few semesters back in a Pysch class where all human actions are ultimately centered around survival from death, and succession in reproduction in sex.
Don’t it seem like: when you’re single, all you see are happy couples together. When you’re with someone, all you see are happy singles.
In a few recent posts, I told you all of how I broke up with my main guy, we tried dating and it just didn’t work out the way we wanted to. We were moving at two totally different speeds. Since then, I’ve hooked up with two other people: the DJ that I met at the barbershop, and the fat booty red bone dude that I met at that Icebreaker on campus.
Yep; I’ve been a bit of a hoe since I’ve been single, but… I’m LOVING the “no strings attached” idea.
As long as we’re both using condoms and being careful with eachother, I don’t see anything wrong with consensual sex between two (or more) adults.
With all that being said: I’M ABSOLUTELY LOVING THE SINGLE LIFE!!
I finally have a chance to get back to me: catch up on schoolwork, show my face more at Church, kick it with my friends more—instead of molding all of my plans around “this nigga” and “that bitch”…
I have friends who are absolutely petrified at the idea of not being in a relationship. I’ve seen people do some downright outragoues things just to keep someone around.
IF SOMEBODY DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU, LET THEY ASS GO! IF IT’S MEANT TO BE, I’LL BE DAMNED IF THEY DON’T COME BACK TO YOU!!!
Hell, the older I get (21 at the end of this month, btw) the more I realize that the times when you’re single is meant to get YOUR SHIT together; so you’ll know what you want the next time around. You know what you’re willing to sacrifice/accept to be with someone.
Honestly, sometimes you can be in a relationship and STILL feel lonely. I’ll let you figure that out all on your own though…
So, to all my fellow bloggers who are single, raise your glasses!
Here’s a toast to us: the singles, the numero unos!
Besides, there’s plenty of fleshlights, lube, dildos, and PORN to get you through until Mr. Right(now) comes along!
…So, get the Vaseline out and enjoy the pics!
--Cogito
Capricornaries@hotmail.com
Great blog! You really gave readers something to think about.
ReplyDeleteCogito you are not yet 21 so being single at your stage of the game is a good idea. As you wrote, you can get to know yourself better, do things you enjoy doing, and figure out what kind of a dude you really want.
The key is learning to love yourself and have fun by yourself. When you can do that you will be ready for a healthy relationship because you won't enter one for the wrong reasons (like loneliness or horniness).
Cogito, continue to enjoy your life. Youth goes fast! It seems like just yesterday my 40-something ass was almost 21.
Take care, and wish ColdPhoenix and I could be with you to wish you a happy birthday
Thanks Immanuel that makes so much sense yo! I'm fortunate to know people of such wisdom. And yeah, you and CP-- us 3 would have oodles of fun kickin it!
ReplyDelete--Cogito